90 yrs old Grandparents in Deserate need of a New walk In Shower! PLEASE HELP ME ANGEL!!

I am a full time caregiver to my 90+ yrs old grandparents,both of whom suffer from dementia, and one who has had a stroke and can not walk..And my grandmothers incontinence is really bad.They have a small 5x8 foot bathroom w/ a fiberglass bath/shower in it. Everyday is a dangerous struggle to get them up and over the side of the tub.Dangerous for them and me, cause I'm the one helping/lifting them in there. I'm 38,5.4" and 120lbs,it's breaking my back doing this.I am trying to keep them out of the nursing home as long as possible.When they were in the nursing home both showed signs of abuse and had lost wieght. I know I CAN DO THIS UNTIL THEY PASS, BUT i NEED A EASIER WAY TO BATHE THEM. A simple walk in shower would make the world of difference, easy to roll them in the wheelchair,transfer to the shower seat and wash. Right now, I have to lift and turn them off the wheelchair to the toliet,set them down, rest ,reposition us lift and hope that we don't fall, which has happened. luckily she landed on me , but I had a concussion and a headache for a month. Please help if you can, I don't have insurance, and if I really hurt myself, I am screwed and so are they.PlEASE ANYTHING HELPS!

Wish Info

  • Posted: Jul 24, 2012 6:57 am
  • Member: Grandparents2012
  • Member Since: Jul 24, 2012
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  • Raised: $0.00 Goal: $3,000.00
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  • City: PalmDesert
  • State: California
  • Country: United States
  • Type: Need
  • Wish is for: Senior
  • Category: Housing & Utilities
  • Cause: Alzheimers
  • Views: 284
  • Comments: 13
  • Follows: 0

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Grandparents2012 9 months ago

Thank you flowerlady, I do have a brace , and it does help, my problem is my neck eversince I fell with my grammy in the tub.Hurts all the time. I wish I could do the toliet idea, but some crappy decorator put CARPET in the bathroom. WHY? Who does that? Although the thought of ripping it out and dealing w/ whatever is underneath in kinda appealing. I'm researching the cutout, and someone emailed me about trying a outdoor solar shower. Since I live in the desert, sun is no problem, and they seem to run about $200. Much more affordable. I may have to try another wish for a solar outdoor shower,I can pay for some of that so I would be in such a pickle trying to scap up the rest. Thank you so much for you ideas, and just knowing others are out there, who have dealt with these issues helps a lot! :)

flowerlady 9 months ago

I saw that commercial where they cut out the bathtub too.I am sure it must be cheaper than the big bathroom remodel. Well, here is my idea.First, get yourself one of those back braces. The ones the guys at the grocery stores wears.I have had 6 back surgeries,and if your back is screwed up, your life is over, at least the one as you know it.It won't do them or you any good if you don't take care of yourself first.My DH was sick for many yrs, but the last one was the worst. I bathed him on the toilet.I could get to his bottom that way, which as we know, is always the worst.I got a big basin of warm water and soap and got to it. It made my life a lot easier. There was no way I could get him in/out of the tub. Most of the water ran down his back/front into the toilet, but of course I kept a mop handy.I would do this, and maybe wash them in the tub once a week.This will truly help you out a lot.If there is anything else that you need help with, let me know. My DH was sick for 6 yrs.I know i

Grandparents2012 9 months ago

Thank you , I've tried medicaid , but they don't assist with home /environment issues in California. each state deals with their medicaid differently. It's been almost 4 yrs I've been doing this,and we were alright for a long time , but the past few months things have just been getting really hard, and they are getting less mobile.I'm now researching a thing where they cut an opening into the side of the tub, kind of making it a walk in. I'm hoping it may work and not be too expensive.I just wish I was a plumber,I can do the tiling and grouting, a lot of that type of work, but not the plumbing or demo. But maybe this bath cutout idea will prove to be successful.

littlebunnie 10 months ago

I wish I could help, I hope you get lots of heros. I do understand and my heart goes out to you. I used to have the same problem bathing my dad. There was just no room for the wheelchair, me, dad and the bath bench. I think getting him back out was the scariest part. Please be careful with your back and try not to hurt yourself. I know that medicaid covers walk in showers, not sure about medicare. Good luck.

Grandparents2012 10 months ago

Thank you ,for the bench idea. But there is a wall between the toliet and the bath, and only 2.5 ftin front of the toliet and 3 ft width to get through the bath. I can get the bench in, but nothing else, cause the toliet is where she needs to turn and sit.I tried fliping it the other way, but they only had 6 inches between the bench and wall. If the wall was not there between the tuyb and toliet,I could use the toliet to tub transfer bench, but I was qouted 2000 for the demo of that wall. Thanks again for the idea and please keep them coming

kimbaker 10 months ago

yw hun

smallworld 10 months ago

I cannot comment below, but you need one of these....

http://www.careprodx.com/categories/Transfer-Benches/Sliding-Transfer-Benches/?gclid=CO_E_v60srECFQhN4Aod_hYADw

mommie817 10 months ago

you are very welcome sweetie

Grandparents2012 10 months ago

Thank you for your prayers, I've tried the sponging...fecal matter,water,wheelchairs,carpet,and parilized people don't mix. When the pooh is stuck all over her, it's impossible to move her around while sponging and not get it everywhere.And she is heavy and hard to even sponge bathe. But once again Thank you so much for the advice and prayers.:)

mommie817 10 months ago

i agree with teelschool

kimbaker 10 months ago

your in our prayers hun

mommie817 10 months ago

welcome to wuah i hope you get your wish your family is in my prayers

teelschool 10 months ago

God Bless you for caring for your grandparents. Instead of trying to get them in and out of the shower, could you perhaps just give them a sponge bath in their wheelchair. Rather than taking the chance of falling and really getting hurt, for the time being. I pray for a solution to your problems.