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Stage 4 cancer patient wants help paying for current home for children before her death


I’m submitting this because I want for her to realize at least one of her heart’s desires before cancer consumes(?) her: to ensure a place for her children—17 & 11—to live after her death.

Despite a violent childhood--& adulthood riddled with physical & mental abuse--my cousin Carmen has always, even as a child, put the needs & wants of others ahead of her own. Shortly after being discharged from the military with PTSD, she was diagnosed with breast cancer, which has since spread to both hips, shoulder, brain, bones & spine. Within the past week, she learned that a small black lump on her side is also cancerous. Even though she continues to fight & hope &... smile an infectious smile, it's becoming increasingly clear that this battle is proving to be more challenging—for all of us—than any she’s faced.

Early yesterday morning, she awoke in so much pain that I think she thought that the end of her life on this earth might be nearing its end, which is what prompted me to submit this request. (It’s been difficult for me to believe that ANYTHING could... beat her... because she’s always been so very strong.)

In recent months, her sister left her apartment in another state, with her 3 children, to help care for her. Within the past couple weeks, the 3 of us sat together to discuss Carmen’s final wishes. After the conversation, we were left trying to determine how to care for her children & maintain the home & environment she wanted & worked so hard to give them. Our hope is that you'll be willing to help make that happen.

There is so much more of her story that I would love to share with you, not in an effort to convince you to help, but because it is a life experience with so much to teach. ...Please feel free to ask ANY questions.

Thanks so much.

#PayPal....

Wish Info

  • Posted: Aug 5, 2012 8:46 am
  • Member: nBloom
  • Member Since: Mar 15, 2009
  • Hero: 1 time
  • Wishes Granted: 0 times
  • Raised: $0.00 Goal: $200,000.00
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  • City: Wilmington
  • State: Delaware
  • Country: United States
  • Type: Want
  • Wish is for: Family
  • Category: Housing & Utilities
  • Cause: Cancer
  • Views: 224
  • Comments: 11
  • Follows: 1

Comments & Responses


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nBloom 8 months ago

my cousin passed away on august 21. ...thank you for the prayers.

poodlelover 9 months ago

prayed

mommie817 9 months ago

i agree with ckirkman you are in my prayers

nBloom 9 months ago

thanks, ckirkman. she's aware. and it will help. but in addition to supplying their personal needs, there remains the issue of housing.

ckirkman 9 months ago

I don't know if you/she is aware of SS Survivors Benefits, but that will help whoever has the children to care for them. When she gets her statement from Social Security yearly, it should show the amount available for each child. That check will be available until the child graduates from High School. So sorry you are having to go through this.

mommie817 9 months ago

i hope you get your wish

kimbaker 9 months ago

yw hun hugs

mommie817 9 months ago

you are very welcome

nBloom 9 months ago

mommie817 & kimbaker... thank you so very much. i'm taking her and her children to the beach today. :o) ...taking LOTS of pictures.

mommie817 9 months ago

your family is in my thoughts and prayers

kimbaker 9 months ago

your family is in our prayers hun hope you get a hero
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