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My name is Justine. I am 20 years old.

3 years ago I met an amazing person. He was always kind to me, and he was always supportive. He helped me after I had been sexually abused, and assaulted by an ex-boyfriend of mine.

8 months ago I found out that he was homeless. I thought so highly of him that I wanted to offer my help. I offered him a place to stay and food to eat. At the time I was working a well paying job. I was injured on the job and my employer refused to comply with the doctors orders which stated that I was not to be working under such conditions. As a result I was no longer able to perform my job duties, and I could no longer work.

Since this guy has come to stay with me I have discovered that he is mentally unwell. He needs me to take care of him. I feel like I have the entire world on my shoulders. I am responsible for:
- Paying all of the bills
(even though I have been unable to work a regular job) - I do this by doing odd jobs, but it is never enough.
- Making sure that we have enough to eat.
- Cooking three meals a day
- I am responsible for all housework.
- I bathe him
- I make sure that he takes his medications
- I feed him
- I pay for his prescriptions
- I make sure that he has clean clothes
_ I call for refills on his presciptions
- I have to drive 30 miles away to get his mail
I do everything for him because he is unable to do these things on his own. I am now $6,000 in debt. I do not know how I am going to pay the bills next month. This person sacrificed so much for me. I want people to help me. I cannot keep doing this all on my own. I walk around with a heavy heart because I am responsible for so much. I don't even feel like I am twenty anymore. I feel like I am a hundred years old. I feel like I am going to break. Please out of the kindness of your heart, help me get back on my feet. I've shown so much kindness to others, I hope that others will show it to me.

Wish Info

  • Posted: Mar 5, 2013 5:18 pm
  • Member: itsjess93
  • Member Since: Oct 31, 2012
  • Wishes Granted: 3 times
  • Raised: $12.01 Goal: $10,000.00
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  • City: Fulton
  • State: Illinois
  • Country: United States
  • Type: Need
  • Wish is for: Self
  • Category: Debt Relief
  • Cause: Money
  • Views: 2295
  • Comments: 55
  • Follows: 1

3 Accepted OffersLast offer 2 months ago

*Guest offers are automatically accepted, and do not appear in the list below.

  • aWonderingDawn 2 months ago - Accepted!

    I know this isn't much, but I will donate a bit more once I recieve my paycheck. I hope a few more heroes can reach out and help you get to your goal.

    Much love!

  • slknox26 2 months ago - Accepted!

    Do you have a paypal account? If not I will send you a check.

  • sandcastle 2 months ago - Accepted!

    I know this isn't much, but I hope it helps.

Comments & Responses


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stephani 1 month ago

not everyone who visited this page had $5 to donate some just have kind and encouraging words...

itsjess93 1 month ago

I just did the math. I am really sad to see that if the number of people who have visited this page had each donated $5, $9,000 would have been raised.

thor 2 months ago

(cont.)
I know it's hard, it's damn hard, but you have to learn to say no. You are being too nice.
Enough is enough, there is no point in you completely sacrifying yourself.
Now, it seems likely that your situation will change in one of two possible ways; either you put your foot down and start taking care of yourself, or you lose your apartment and have to move somewhere else. While e.g. moving back in with your parents shouldn't be the end of the world, I suspect you would rather keep your apartment.

I know that you are feeling stressed, sad, scared, tired and overwhelmed right now, so let me at least assure you that there is nothing wrong with you, and that your situation is not at all hopeless.

Feel free to PM me if you would like to discuss further.

thor 2 months ago

Justine,
Excellent. So let's start having a look at what can be done about the situation.
With all due respect for the economic stress that you are currently experiencing, it is my honest opinion that simply throwing money at your problems won't make them go away.
Just look at that long list of responsibilities you have taken on; even if money wasn't an issue,
that long list of chores would still keep you firmly chained to another person's set of needs and problems.
You are providing food, shelter, transportation, laundry service, medication and whatnot. You are even taking interest in a legal fight that has seemingly little to do with you.
(cont.)

itsjess93 2 months ago

Thor,
You are right and this is exactly how I feel. I do have my sights on law school.

thor 2 months ago

Hello Justine. After reading up a bit and watching your video, it seems likely to me that you are a good-hearted and resourceful person with plans for the future. It is however also apparent that you are overextending yourself trying to help someone else, when currently not in a position to offer help to others. You mean so well but you are going under trying to help someone else. At this point, you absolutely shouldn't feel obligated to provide even more help, but instead feel proud of all the help you have provided despite the circumstances, and go take care of yourself. Really. Basta. You are not living your own life. Set your sights on coming back as a lawyer in 5-10 years from now, with a platform and the tools to really help someone. There will never be a shortage of battles worth fighting in this world.

itsjess93 2 months ago

If this money gets raised I hope to start fresh with my life.

yeralosersmile 2 months ago

I'm 21, and I can kind of relate to your struggles. I'm sorry you have to take care of him so much, and that your so young yourself. Just please keep your head high, things will get better soon!!!!

chabela0731 2 months ago

Hi, itsjess93. I hope you get many heroes for this wish, you are going through a lot, and I will be praying for your situation. Have you tried registering with givelocally.net. This website has lots of success for money needed like this. I hope this helps, many blessings sent your way.

itsjess93 2 months ago

I want to say again how sorry I am.

itsjess93 2 months ago

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gm8fqIuVCOk&feature=youtu.be

Here is the shape that I am in.

itsjess93 2 months ago

I have recorded another video. It has been many months since I have done this. But I want people to see first hand what I am dealing with.

itsjess93 2 months ago

mythree, You are right. BeKind...I am sorry that I lashed out at you. I am under so much pressure. It know that my circumstances do not justify my actions. I am very sorry.
batgirljn, I am looking after a man named Hunter who has been puking in his sleep for two weeks, and whom I care for because he is unable to do it himself. I have tried to get him to do things on his own and he simply cannot. I became angry because over the last 8 months I have received more judgement than anyone else I know. I am so sorry WUAH community. Please forgive me.

aprice26 2 months ago

I'm sorry but I don't see where people are passing judgement. I see comments that show people are concerned about her and her situation. I see people offering kind advice based on the information provided by the wisher. Its in the wish itself that she says he's mentally unwell and unable to care for himself. Maybe I missed something... if I offended anyone by anything I said, I apologize. I was being genuine in what I said previously and what I'm saying now.

BeKind 2 months ago

hmm only one I msged was dawn, so you blew it all out of proportion yourself jess. Again, good luck!
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